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Visiting A Therapist For The First Time For Scam Victims
A Guide to Help Scam Victims Begin Their Interaction with Their Therapist to Support Them!
Principal Category: Scam Victim Recovery Psychology
Author:
• Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist, Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
Abstract
Visiting a therapist for the first time after experiencing a scam is a significant step towards healing. To make the most of your session, prepare by writing down details of the scam, your emotional responses, and the impact on your life. Mentally prepare by acknowledging your courage and setting clear therapy goals, such as overcoming trauma or managing anxiety. During the session, engage openly with your therapist, sharing your story and discussing your expectations. This proactive approach fosters a supportive therapeutic environment, helping you to rebuild your life with confidence and resilience.

Understanding What is Important when You Visit Your Therapist for the First Time!
Guide for Scam Victims Visiting Their Therapist for the First Time
Preparing for Your First Therapist Session
Visiting a therapist for the first time can be a significant step towards healing after experiencing a scam. Proper preparation can help you make the most of your initial session. Here are some key points to consider.
Write Down Your Scam Experiences for Your Therapist
Before your first therapy session, take the time to write down what happened during the scam. Include details such as:
What Happened: Describe the scam, how it was carried out, and your interactions with the scammer.
How You Felt: Reflect on your emotions during and after the scam. Were you scared, embarrassed, angry, or confused?
Impact on Your Life: Note how the scam has affected you, including financial losses, trust issues, anxiety, depression, or any other emotional or psychological impacts.
Writing down these experiences can help you clearly communicate your situation to your therapist and provide a comprehensive picture of your trauma.
Mentally Preparing Yourself for the First Therapist Visit
Visiting a therapist for the first time can evoke a mix of emotions, from nervousness to hope. Mentally preparing yourself for this important step is crucial. Begin by acknowledging your courage in seeking help and reminding yourself that this is a positive move toward healing. Accept that it’s normal to feel apprehensive and that these feelings are part of the process. Understand that therapy is a safe space designed for your benefit, and it’s okay to take things at your own pace.
Reflect on what you want to achieve from therapy. Consider your goals, such as overcoming trauma, managing anxiety, or developing coping mechanisms. Writing these down can help clarify your thoughts and provide a focused direction for your sessions. Additionally, try practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing or mindfulness before your appointment to help calm any pre-session jitters. Visualize your first meeting with the therapist going well, where you feel heard and understood. This positive mindset can help ease your anxiety and prepare you for a constructive and open dialogue during your session.
Engaging with Your Therapist for the First Time
Beginning therapy can feel daunting, especially after experiencing the trauma of being scammed. Engaging with your therapist for the first time is about establishing a connection and building trust. Start by sharing your story openly and honestly. Remember, your therapist is there to support you and provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to express your feelings. Be as detailed as you feel comfortable with about your experience, the emotions it triggered, and how it has impacted your life. This transparency will help your therapist understand your situation better and tailor their approach to meet your needs.
It’s also important to discuss your expectations and goals for therapy during this initial session. Clearly communicate what you hope to achieve, whether it’s overcoming trauma, managing anxiety, or developing coping mechanisms. Ask your therapist any questions you might have about the process, their experience with similar cases, and the techniques they plan to use. Engaging actively from the start will help set the tone for your therapeutic journey, fostering a collaborative environment where you feel supported and understood. This proactive approach can significantly enhance the effectiveness of your therapy, helping you move toward healing and recovery.
Identify Your Goals
Understanding your goals for therapy can provide direction and focus for your sessions. Consider what you hope to achieve, such as:
Overcoming Trauma: Do you want to work through the emotional trauma and regain a sense of normalcy?
Managing Anxiety: Are you seeking strategies to cope with anxiety triggered by the scam?
Developing Coping Mechanisms: Would you like to learn coping mechanisms to deal with trust issues and other emotional challenges?
By identifying your goals, you and your therapist can develop a tailored plan to address your specific needs.
Additional Tips for Your First Session
Be Open and Honest: Share your thoughts and feelings openly with your therapist. Honesty is crucial for effective therapy.
Ask Questions: If you’re unsure about the therapy process, don’t hesitate to ask your therapist questions. Understanding how therapy works can help you feel more comfortable.
Take Your Time: Healing from a scam can be a lengthy process. Be patient with yourself and the therapy process.
Bring a Notebook: Consider bringing a notebook to jot down any important points or advice your therapist gives you during the session.
Summary
Visiting a therapist for the first time is a courageous step towards recovery after being scammed. By preparing for your session, you can ensure that you and your therapist have a clear understanding of your experiences and goals. This preparation will help create a solid foundation for your therapeutic journey, enabling you to move forward and rebuild your life with confidence and resilience.

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A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
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All articles about psychology, neurology, and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in these articles is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
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